This is a guidebook to help children who:

• hurt, hit, bite, smash, kick, shout, scream or who are out of control, hyperaroused or hyperactive
• can only discharge their angry feelings in verbal or physical attacks, rather than being able to think about and reflect on what they feel
• are angry because it is easier than feeling hurt or sad
• are locked in anger or rage because of sibling rivalry
• are controlling and punitive
• regularly defy authority or are diagnosed with a conduct disorder
• commit cold acts of cruelty, hurt animals or do not cry any more; spoil, damage or destroy what others do or make
• create fear in others because they have locked away their own fears
• do not want to please people, cannot trust, have stopped looking for love or approval or truly believe they do not need anyone
• do not really know how to 'like' someone; and, definitely do not know how to love someone or are affectionate only if they want something.